The Only Way Out Is Through I’ve had my heart broken at least once a year for every year that I can remember being alive. I’ve tried my best to avoid it ever since the first little girl checked “no” on my note asking if she liked me but it seems like no matter what I…
You are who you’ve been looking for “Most of us walk around all day every day with this gaping hole inside of us. It feels like something is missing — something’s just not complete. So we spend the vast majority of our time on this planet looking for things to fill that hole. The online…
Learning to love the Skin I am in Race is the dumbest thing that human beings have ever invented. That being said, I absolutely adore being black but it’s honestly taken me awhile to get here. Being black is confusing, to say the least. In one moment it fills me with joy because of…
How Space, Grace, & Being Intentionally Single Taught Me How to Love Myself I used to fear solitude. You know, abandonment issues and all that. That fear caused me to be insecure and to cling to relationships that I knew weren’t good for me. Sound familiar? I think we all experience the fear of being…
How I Became Less Dependent On The Validation Of Others In The Age of Social Media What do you think of me? Good things, I hope. I used to say that I didn’t care about what people thought about me but I’ve learned that wasn’t the whole truth. I do care what people think about…
Why Goals are often the Enemy of Success Can a person be successful if they’re constantly anxious and unhappy? I don’t think so but a lot of the people we label as “successful” are miserable from moment to moment and a part of that misery comes from being anxious about achieving or not achieving goals…
“Losing My Mother at 25 & Why Suffering is Grace in Disguise” I’m writing this from grandmother’s kitchen table in my hometown of Laurens, SC. My mother’s birthday is today and I came home to celebrate with my family as I’ve often done in the past but this birthday will be different than all…
Love: Appreciation Vs Possession & Why Possessiveness is Toxic In Any Relationship Parents don’t want to hear that their children don’t belong to them. In fact, had I ever said something like that to my mother, she would have promptly bopped me in my mouth. How dare I say that I don’t belong to her!?…
“Why Playing the Victim is Playing Yourself” I honestly feel like I don’t lose often these days — figuratively speaking, of course. Just a couple weeks ago, I was back home shooting ball with my little brother and we lost 2 games in a row while running pickup at the Y. But did I really…
“Why Being Single on Valentine’s Day Should Make You Feel Powerful” Kairos (n): a time when conditions are right for the accomplishment of a crucial action. Kairos is obviously the reason I decided to write about romantic relationships this week and it’s also the reason why I’ll be single again on Valentine’s for the…